Sunday, April 25, 2010

My Guy

(How handsome he is...and trying to hide his Blackberry in his hand!)

I decided it was time to post about JT. If you know me- you know I love talking about my kids, great things God has shown me, adoption and don't get me started on the orphan crisis in our world. So for this post- I am going to take a moment and talk about "My Guy."

We've been married for almost 14 years. He is the same as he was the day I married him. Easy going - fun to be around - a procrastinator (I am not!)- hard worker - great provider - golfer - NFL fan - permanently attached to his Blackberry - music lover and new to the list.... self taught harmonica player. My closest friends refer to him as the "Gatekeeper." He is protective of me and anything that hurts/upsets me. It hasn't happened often in our marriage, but our life story definitely has some tough chapters.

When we lost our triplets 5 years ago, the healing was much easier for him. He was more worried about me and my health. He grieved but in a much different way than me.

When we were told Emily wasn't available to adopt, he was more worried about my heart than his. Now that we are looking into a more detailed investigation of Emily (I can't go into all of it on this blog), he told me that it haunts him to think about seeing me go through another loss. He is the gatekeeper of my heart.

Now hear me clearly - we are not perfect by any means. The man can get on my very last nerve and if I am honest.... I KNOW I can get on his too! :-)

I found this quote before we got married and have kept it ever since. I don't remember where I got it, the paper is now faded and yellowed from time.

"We come to love not by finding a perfect person
but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."

Flaws and all (both his and mine).... he is still "My Guy" and the one who I knew would eventually say, "Yes, I am on board! Let's adopt!" I am most certainly ready for this chapter of our life story to be written.

You can be certain that he will be the best Dad to the precious little one God has in store for us. He mostly certainly is to two we have now. Makes me love him more...


  1. I really think you should start a "MY GUY MONDAY". Then we could all post about our men. Do you know how to do a Mr. Linky? I think you should start Monday with the harmonica story. I know I have more than enough material to do several weeks of My Guy Monday posts!

    JT should be proud of this post. He is a great guy!


  2. we really need to get 'our guys' could have been talking about joey in this post : ) love your quote...i will hang on to that too! xoxo